न्यानो माया : Donate Warm Clothes to the Needy

तराईमा कस्तो छ कुन्नी तर काठमाडौं उपत्यकामा शीत सहितको एकदमै ठिहिर्याउने जाडो छ। भुकम्पपछि पालको बास भएका या तराई डुवान पछि घरबार र लत्तकपडा बिहिन भएकाहरुको त बिजोगै भो होला , बिहान होला र न्यानो होला भन्ने आशामा छन् होला ।

सदियौ देखी केही नभएका मान्छेहरु पनि यहाँ धेरैनै छन् , सुकम्बासी भनेर चिनिन्छन् । कसले एक सरो लुगा देला र जाडो काट्म्ला भनेर बसेका छन् । चिसो सडकमा सडक बालबालीकाहरु कसरी निदाए होलान् ।

दिन रात काम गरेर पनि खान नपुग्नेहरु कि त भ्रष्ट भएका छन् , जो पढेलेखेका गरीबहरु हुन् , या त अर्को कुनै क्रान्तीको तानाबाना बुन्दै छन् ।
जुन ठाउँमा हाम्रो न्यानो माया पुगेको छैन मिसीनरी पक्कै पुगेको होला । बिडम्बना आजको जल्दो बल्दो ब्यवसाय त्यही भएको छ। गाउँ गाउँमा र बस्ती बस्तीमा भोका – नांगा त पक्कै बढेका छन् । मान्छेहरु जन्मी रहेछन् तर प्राकृतीक स्रोत घटीरहेको छ , अस्तब्यस्तता बढिरहेको छ , रोजगार छैन ।

अब अरु कुरो होइन , आफ्नो मनको ढोका खोल्नुस् अनि घरको दराज, बाकस र सुन्दुक । त्यहाँबाट , तपाईले नलगाएका लुगाहरु धेरैनै छन् र न्याना पनि होला , निकाल्नुहोस् , सुकाउनुस् , धुनुस र र लिएर पुग्नुस् नजीकैको गरीब धनबहादुरको घरमा या फाटेको फ्रक लगाएकी सिर्जनाको घर । मनग्य आशीस पाउनुस् ।

सबैलाई न्यानो माया , शुभ – आर्शीबाद ।
आज जन्मदिन हुनेहरुलाई बिषेश शुभकामना ।
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जनहितका लागी जारी सुचना – भुकम्प पिडितका लागी न्यानो कपडा

संसारभर एक डिग्री सेल्सीयसले तापक्रम बढ्ने कुरा भईरहेको छ , तर काठमाडौंको जाडो ५ डिग्री सेल्सीयसले बढेको अनुभव हुन्छ । २०३४ साल पछि जन्मीएका हाम्रा पिढिका मान्छेहरुले माईनस ० डिग्री सेल्सीयस भन्दा बढि जाडो अनुभव यस पलि न्यानो सानो कोठामा बसेर चिसो तातो सुरुप्प गर्दै अनुभव गर्न पाईयो । तर जाडो मुटुनै काम्ने छ ।

भुकम्पको महाबिपत्ति , त्यसपछिको भारतीय नाकाबन्दी र उर्जा संकट अनि दिनहुँको महंगी र के खाउँ र के लाउँ भन्ने बाध्यता माझ यो जाडोको महाबिपत्ति अनि छाप्रो र पालको बास । फेरी पाल बाट चुहिने जीउ छेड्ने शीत अनि बिहान कहिले होला भन्ने झिनो आशा र उहि प्रदुशषणले तुषारापात गरेको घाम । यो अत्यन्तै बिपतको स्थीति हो , सारा नेपालीका लागी र यो कठिनतम् स्थीतिबाट उन्मुक्ति पाउने भनेकोनै सारा नेपालीको न्यानो माया र सद्भाव हो ।

बर्षौ देखी तपाईको दराजमा थन्कीएका , ढुसी गनाउनै लागेका , किराले खान्छु भनेर आँ गरेका , नाती पनाति, छोरो बुहारीले कासेली पाएका कपडा कहिलेको लागी साँचेर राखेको , छोरीलाई चाहिंदैन , नातीनीले लगाउँदैन । मन फराकिलो गर्नुस् , निकाल्नुस् , धुनुस् र पुगोस् बिधालय जाँदा ठिहिराई राखेका नानीहरुका आँगमा , सुत्केरीको छातीमा , बृद्धहरुलाई न्यानो सेक्न ,चीसोमा कर्मबादी हात चलाईरहेका मजदुरहरुको भक्कानो रोक्न ।

तपाई शीत लहरले छोपेको भुकम्प पिडित टहराहरुमा पुग्न सक्नुहुन्छ , महोत्तरी र रोतहट पुग्न सक्नुहुन्छ या काठामाडौंकै गणेश स्कुल या दरबार हाईस्कुल पुग्न सक्नुहुन्छ एक कुटुरो न्यानो बोकेर । उनीहरुले तपाईको सहयोग लिन अस्वीकार गरे भने भन्नुहोस् - "यो जाडोमा न्यानो मेरो तर्फबाट , अको बर्ष तपाईको सदाससयताबाट ।"

नेपाली पहिचना फहराउने बेला यहि हो । आखीर झण्डा बोल्दैन र ति दुखी मनहरुले माग्न जानेका पनि छैनन् । तपाईनै अघि सर्नुस्।

बाँडेर र दान गरेर अखिर कोही गरीब भएको , छैन । नेपलीलाई चेतना होस् ।

हामीहरु पनि तपाईकै साथमा छौं ।

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जनहितमा जारी - Don't Suppress Natural Urges

नमस्कार साथीहरु ।

आज हामी सोच , शोख , शौच र शयनलाइ कसरी ब्यवस्थीत गरेर त्यसले मानवमा पार्ने असरहरु कम गर्न सकिन्छ भन्ने बारे आम जनताका अनुभवबाट सिक्ने प्रयास गर्नेछौं ।

सोच – जुन किसीमको आर्थीक सामाजीक परीस्थीतिमा हामी जकडिएका छौं त्यसले हाम्रो समस्त जीवन पद्दतिलाई असर गरीराखेको छ । जबसम्म सोचमा अर्धम र झुट हुन्छ त्यसले दम्भ र लोभ लाई जन्म दिईनै रहन्छ । दम्भ र लोभको संसर्गबाट क्रोध अनि हिंसाको जन्म हुन्छनै । यसबाट निरन्तर समस्या र जडताको शुरुवात हुन्छ जो सबै दुखहरुको कारण हो ।

शोख – हाम्रा बिचारहरु अनुसाका आचार या ब्यवहार भएनन भने पनि धेरै रोगहरुले शरीरलाई गाँज्छ । दुब्र्यषण आफैमा एउटा गलत आहार र आचारको परीणाम हो । जे बोल्नुहुन्छ त्यो गर्नुहोस् । सँधै ईमान्दार र दयालु बन्ने प्रयासमा लाग्नुहोस् ।

शौच र शयन – निन्द्रा ब्यवस्थीत गर्न नसक्नाले शरीरलाई यथेष्ट आराम पुग्दैन र शरीर चन्चल र क्रोधि बन्छ जसले कालन्तरमा हिंसा र दुख नामको रोग जन्माउँछ । प्रयाप्त आरामको कमि मानसीक रोगहरुको एक प्रमुख कारण हो ।

शौचलाई या अरु प्राकृतीक तिर्सनाहरुलाइ रोक्ने प्रयासले शरीरमा बिषात्तता बढाउँछ र अन्तमा रोग फैलाउँछ – जन्माउँछ । कुनै पनि प्राकृतीक इच्छालाई रोक्नु शरीरमा रोग या दोष निम्त्याउनुनै हो । रगत कालो हुने र शरीरको आभा क्षीण र कालो हुँदै जाने र दिनहीन देखीने त छँदैछ ।

त्यो बिषलाई फाल्नको लागी हाम्रो शरीरले बिशेषत मिर्गौलाहरुले निरन्तर काम गर्नुपर्छ । कुनै पनि अंगले सीमा भन्दा ज्यादा काम गर्नु भनेको त्यसको कार्यक्षमता क्षिण हुँदै जानु हो र अन्त्यमा काम गर्न नसक्नु हो ।

फेरी हामो सामाजीक परीवेशमा जहाँ पाए त्यही शौच त्याग गर्ने सुबिधा महिलाहरुलाई छैन । यसको सिधा संकेत हो महिलाहरुलाई पाचन प्राणली (पेटका समस्याहरु) , प्रजनन प्रणाली र शौच या निकासी प्रणलीहरुमा (दिशा , पिसाब) यो बिषले त्यसका अंगहरुलाई धेरैनै असर गरीराखेको हुन्छ । र्मिगौला जस्तो अत्यावसेक अंग जसको मुख्य कामनै रगतको सफाई गर्नु हो बिर्गनुमा यो एउटा प्रमुख कारण हो । अत शौचलाई रोक्ने प्रयास नगरौं ।

अब देशले मन्दिर भन्दा पनि धेरै शौचालय खोजेको छ ।

यता पुरुष या जोकोहीले पनि मद्दपान गरीसकेपछि शौच गरेर , मनतातो पानीले नुहाएर र खाना खाएर सुतेै रक्सीको बिषाक्तताले दिमाग र र्मिर्गौला दुबैमा धेरै असर गर्ने पाउँदैन ।

एउटा सानो सचेतना र जानकारीले महंगो उपचारबाट बच्न सकिन्छ र जीन्दगी पनि बचाउन सकिन्छ ।

यो सुचना आम जनताका बिच बाँढनु होला ।

धन्यबाद ।

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Anger Management: रीस ब्यवस्थापन

हरेक चोटी जब तिमीलाई झनक्क रीस उठ्छ ॐ नादलाई अ उ म भनेर उच्चारण् गर्नु ।

अनि १०० देखी उल्टो गन्न थाल्नु ।

जब रीस मर्छ तब मात्र प्रतिकृया दिनु ।

रीसलाई पर-पर सम्बन्धलाई वर-वर ल्याउ ।

Every time you are angry chant Om (the cosmic sound) as Aa Woo Ma.

Take a deep breathe.

Then start counting from 100 to whatever.

Only when the anger subsides you can react.

Take 'time out' from anger and make time-space for relationships!

#AngerManagement

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What Is Anger?

Anger is a very powerful feeling that can happen when you are frustrated, hurt, annoyed, or disappointed. Anger can help or hurt you, depending on how you react to it. If you can react without hurting someone else, it can be a positive feeling. If you hold your anger inside, it can lead to passive-aggressive behavior like ''getting back'' at people without telling them why or being critical and hostile. Knowing how to recognize and express these feelings in appropriate ways can help you handle emergencies, solve problems, and hold on to meaningful relationships.

How Can I Manage Anger?

When you’re angry, you might feel anywhere between a slight irritation to rage.

When you start feeling angry, try deep breathing, positive self-talk, or stopping your angry thoughts. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm. Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax" or "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply until the anger subsides.

Although expressing anger is better than keeping it in, there’s a right way to do it. Try to express yourself clearly and calmly. Angry outbursts are stressful to your nervous and cardiovascular systems and can make health problems worse.

Consider the value of physical activity like regular exercise as a way to both improve your mood and release tension and anger.

Avoid using recreational drugs and drinking too much alcohol, which can make you less able to handle frustration. Alcohol can also loosen your inhibitions so that you say or do something your normally wouldn’t.

Get support from others. Talk through your feelings and try to work on changing your behaviors.

If you have trouble realizing when you are having angry thoughts, keep a written log of when you feel angry.

Try to gain a different perspective by putting yourself in another's place.

Learn how to laugh at yourself and see humor in situations.

Practice good listening skills. Listening can help improve communication and can build trusting feelings between people. This trust can help you deal with potentially hostile emotions. A useful communication exercise is to say to someone, “Let me make sure I understand what you’re saying” and then restate back to them what you perceive as their main message or point of view. Often, this approach helps to clarify misunderstandings that can lead to frustrations, and help identify issues on which you may ultimately “agree to disagree” without turning into a fight.

Learn to assert yourself, expressing your feelings calmly and directly without becoming defensive, hostile, or emotionally charged. Read self-help books or seek help from a professional therapist to learn how to use assertiveness and anger management skills.

What Are the Dangers of Suppressed Anger?

If you don’t deal with your anger, it can lead to anxiety and depression. It can disrupt your relationships and raise your risk of illness. Long-term anger has been linked to health problems like high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders, and digestive problems. Unchecked anger can be linked to crime, abuse, and other violent behavior.

Sometimes, a pattern of inappropriate anger can also be a symptom of a mood disorder, a personality disorder, a substance use problem, or another mental health problem.

What If I Can't Control My Anger?

If you believe that your anger is out of control and is having a negative effect on your life and relationships, seek the help of a mental health professional. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you to learn techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.

A mental health professional can help you deal with your anger in an appropriate way. Ask your doctor if medicines could be helpful. Sometimes, antidepressants, certain anticonvulsants, and low-dose antipsychotics can help manage sudden attacks of rage or anger.

Avoid alcohol, short-acting benzodiazepines like Xanax, or street drugs that can make you say or do things more impulsively.

Choose your therapist carefully, and make sure to talk to a professional who is trained to teach anger management and assertiveness skills.

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CANCER AND COUNSELLING

Counselling doesn’t help you cure the symptoms of any fatal illness as cancers but will help you cope during diagnosis, treatment and healing.

How counselling can help?

Counselling can help you sort out many different types of problems that you may face when you have cancer.

Counselling can help with:
• coping with your reactions to cancer
• family and relationship issues
• exploring personal issues
• dealing with practical issues

Reactions and stress
There are many reactions to cancer you might have including:
• fear or anger
• strong reactions to changes to your body
• anxiety about treatment
You may feel very angry, or find it difficult to cope with a feeling of loss of control. You might also feel very stressed about having to cope with side effects of treatment, such as fatigue, pain or sickness.

Cancer can stir up many deeply personal issues such as consideration of your:
• spirituality
• sexuality
• relationships

Your family relationships
Cancer can also affect your family relationships.  You might find it affects how to talk to your children or your intimacy with your partner
It might also lead to role changes within the family, if you are no longer able to fulfil the role you used to, even temporarily.

Cancer can cause financial strain
You might need to have difficult conversations about:
• financial support
• mortgages
• pensions
• making a will

There may be practical issue such as transport problems or difficulty talking to your doctors. All these can cause family tensions or extra stress for you.

How talking helps?

You may want to deal with things in ways that your friends or family don't agree with.

So it might help to talk through any of these issues and feelings with someone outside your friends and family.Your friends and family may be too close to the issues to see them clearly and objectively.

A counsellor can help you to find different ways of coping that hadn't occurred to you before. And because counselling is confidential, you can be honest about what is bothering you.

How counselling helps?
There is no evidence to suggest that having counselling will help treat or cure your cancer. Nor is there any convincing evidence that it will help prolong your life.

But there is a lot of evidence that counselling can help you to cope better with the many difficulties you face, during and after your cancer diagnosis and treatment. It can help reduce the stress you face and improve your quality of life.

Your doctors and nurses

Although some doctors and nurses may provide their patients with emotional and psychological support, many don’t feel comfortable doing this.

Some health care staff may not feel able to give support or they may not have the time.

Their main focus is on treating and curing your cancer. Of course, if you have cancer, this is very important. But many people are also worried about how they can cope with their illness and how it will disrupt their everyday life.

Because of this, some cancer units now have a counsellor or psychotherapist as part of their team.

How counselling helps with treatment?

We know from research that counselling can help some people overcome the depression and anxiety that cancer can cause.

There’s also evidence that certain methods of counselling can help people deal with phobias about having cancer treatments. The phobias include:

• fear of having injections
• being confined to a small space during an MRI scan

Types of counselling

There are many different types of counselling. Find the one that you feel is best for you.

How to choose?

The type of counselling you choose will depend on:

• what you feel most comfortable with
• how serious the issues are that you want to discuss
• how long you have been having the problems
• the type of issues you have, such as general worries about not coping, relationship problems, phobias.

The important thing to remember is to tell your counsellor if you feel uncomfortable. For example, if they ask you questions that you don’t want to answer.

It’s okay to try different counsellors
If you don’t feel that you’re getting on very well with your counsellor, you can always try someone else.

Personality clashes do happen. So don’t feel bad. It doesn’t mean that counselling won’t help you or that the counsellor is bad at their job.

A good counsellor will understand that you may find it more helpful to see someone else.

Supportive one to one counselling
One to one supportive counselling means that you can talk about your problems and worries in confidence.

You talk to a counsellor who is trained to listen and help you explore your thoughts and feelings. You may have practical issues and want some help to sort them out.

The counsellor may not use a particular method here. They won't tell you what to do but they will listen to you carefully and help you find the best solutions for you. For counselling to work well it is important that you have a trusting and safe relationship with your counsellor.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

You may hear the terms cognitive therapy or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). CBT aims to help you change how you respond to situations or emotions.

Cognitive describes the mental process that people use to remember, reason, understand, problem solve, and judge things.

Behaviour describes your actions or reactions to something.

This type of therapy helps you to understand how your thought patterns may be making you feel depressed or scared. It also teaches you how to calm your body and mind. This helps you to control your feelings more, think more clearly, and generally feel better about things.

CBT is often used to help people overcome:

• difficulties in keeping emotions such as anger, sadness, fear and guilt under control
• feeling very stressed
• addictions
• depression
• panic attacks and phobias
• anxiety
• insomnia and other sleep problems
• low self esteem

Group counselling

There is also group counselling, sometimes called group therapy. This means joining in a group where everyone discusses their problems together.

Usually, everyone in the group is facing similar problems, but not always.
The counsellor will facilitate the group and encourage people to express their feelings within it. Some people find it very helpful to learn that they are not alone with their worries.

This method doesn’t suit everyone, especially if you have some very personal and painful issues you want to discuss.

Family counselling

Because cancer often affects the whole family, it can sometimes help if you all see a counsellor together. Family members may be too scared to express to you how they really feel about your illness.

You may not feel well enough or have the time to sit and talk honestly with your partner and children. Talking to children about cancer can be very difficult and upsetting.

Seeing a counsellor together allows you all a set time to listen to each other’s worries. It can really help give everyone in the family a better understanding of what is happening.

It can also bring you much closer together and encourage you to give each other more support.

Children and family counselling

Children may be keeping a lot of their feelings to themselves for fear of upsetting you. They’re likely to be trying to deal with your illness as well as keeping up with schoolwork, looking after younger siblings and wanting to feel supported and accepted by friends.

बिर्सने बानी हटाउने केही सरल उपाय - Few simple approaches preventing forgetfulness

बिर्सने बानी हटाउने केही सरल उपाय -

एक पटकमा एउटा मात्र काम गर्ने ,

तनाबका कारणहरू हटाउने ,

खानपानमा सतर्कता लिने ,

धुम्रपान-मध्यपान छाेड्ने,

ध्यान-याेग र खेलकुद-दाैडनका लागी हरेक दिन समय छुट्याउने ,

र बिहान उठेर नुहाउने हाे भने अाफ्सेअाफ बिर्सने बानी कस्छ ताप ।

अरू जानकारी लिने ईच्छा भए बिस्तृतमा खुलाएर एउटा भिडियाे बनाएर पठाउनुहाेस् ।

याे सेवा भने ससुल्क हुनेछ ।

धन्यवाद , शुभदिन ।

सेताेघाेडा मनाेसामाजीक केन्द्र

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Few simple approaches preventing forgetfulness -

Take one work at a time, avoid multitasking unless it is a sequence of events!

Work on removing the reasons to stressors in your life!

Watch what you are feeding your mind and mouth!

Say no to drugs, alcohol and smoking!

Set certain time for yourself to indulge in Yog-meditation and sports!

It is always good taking shower in the morning because it will freshen your outlook for the whole day and help you self-reflect for sometime!

If you need more information and an expertise help on forgetfulness just message a video describing all your problems and known symptoms/peculiarities to them.

And remember this will be a paid service!

(Remember there are many differences between amnesia - memory loss and forgetfulness! Amnesia being an organic state can be one of the symptoms of forgetfulness! Forgetfulness is more of worrisome state!)

सेताेघाेडा मनाेसामाजीक केन्द्र

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